Have you ever noticed when you are actively looking for a man, you just can’t find the one you want. There’s something about allowing attraction to happen naturally. Sometimes women may be sending signals that men interpret as being desperate.
People are often attracted to whom they can’t have. Maybe that’s why some people are attracted to someone who is unavailable. A man’s ego and competitive nature may cause him to seek out a woman who is already taken.
Some people purposely get involved with someone who is emotionally unavailable. They may choose these types of relationships because of past hurts, rejection, abandonment, fear of commitment or low self-esteem. In either case, they are trying to avoid getting emotionally attached and repeat heartache. Sometimes it’s the fantasy that they crave of trying to win someone who is unattainable.
Lose your “baggage” from past relationships and try to open your heart to the possibility of love, that you must learn to believe that you truly deserve.
In order to be able to be in a relationship, break up and remain friends, you must have a strong friendship from the start. It’s possible but not likely to lose your man, but keep your friend. Sometimes that happens when a friendship is taken to the next level, but doesn’t work out romantically.
If a break up is a mutual decision it’s possible you could still be friends. The key to remaining friends is to realize early on when the relationship isn’t working out and end it civilly before it gets nasty and bitterness sets in. Both parties must want to salvage the friendship. It’s easier when it’s someone you have been dating for a short period of time. When neither of you have invested that much time and energy into the relationship, you could simply say that you enjoy hanging out with them, but you don’t feel there’s chemistry between you. When only one person wants out of the relationship, then the other person may be offended by suggesting they be placed in the “friend zone.”
Being friends after ending a relationship usually won’t happen immediately if you have been in a relationship for a while. It will take some time apart to get over the hurt and to forgive them and move on. There would have to be maturity on both sides and they would both have to no longer have romantic feelings towards each other in order for a friendship to actually work. This is not the usual situation in a break up. Sometimes one of them still want to be together.
Some women tend to have a specific type of man who she’s attracted to and she doesn’t have any interest in any other man who doesn’t fit into her “type”. It’s a good idea not to place limitations on available men out there that you could meet. You may just miss out on a great guy that you’re overlooking or ruling him out because he doesn’t fit your physical or professional type. These men could be someone you cross paths with everyday; a close male friend, a coworker or someone you’ve known for years, maybe even someone you placed in the “friend zone”.
He may not be tall, dark and handsome, have swag, have a successful career or be the man every woman desires, but he may have other meaningful qualities that you’re also looking for, but can’t seem to find in your usual “type”. Qualities like character, personality, integrity, honesty, stability, maturity and loyalty, just to name a few.
A man may not always tell you that he loves you, but his actions will show his true feelings. Men are taught as boys to hide their feelings and emotions. They have learned how to do that very well. Men communicate differently than women do. Some men won’t open up and share everything that’s on their minds or what they are feeling. You will know how he feels about you by the way he provides and protects you. He will do things for you without you asking him to. A man in love will come to the rescue of the one he loves and will help out or handle a situation that he know is bothering you.
When a man chooses to spend quality time with you, instead of hanging out with the fellas, he’s showing you that he cherishes being in your company as often as he can. A man in love will go out of his way to please the woman he’s in love with. If he does things for you, that he hasn’t done for any other woman, you’ll know just how much you mean to him. Other people will notice his love for you way before you do.
Today some couples are considering the non traditional option of having an open relationship. They feel that since so many relationships end due to infidelity, that they’ll eliminate that factor from their relationship. Some people actually don’t believe in being monogamous. Others want the freedom to have different sex partners, but want to be honest about it, rather than cheat. Sometimes boredom in the bedroom may cause couples to contemplate an open relationship.
A couple must both desire to explore this option and must mutually agree upon this type of relationship and ground rules must be put in place. Also they would have to be secure, trusting and not jealous individuals. First of all, in order for this to possibly work, this type of relationship must be simply casual sex, without any emotional connection. (I don’t think anyone can predict whether or not they will develop feelings for someone else). That’s the number one risk factor with this type of relationship. Secondly, the more sexual partners you have, the greater the chance of getting STDs, or an unexpected pregnancy. All partners must practice safe sex.