Friendship

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Should You Tell Your Girlfriend Her Man is Cheating on Her?

 

 

Although your loyalty is always with your girlfriend, you are putting your friendship at risk when you tell your girlfriend that her man is cheating on her.  When it is her husband that’s cheating, it could turn her life upside down especially if they have children.  It would be less risky, if he is just a boyfriend.

Most women have a suspicion when their man is cheating.  Women are intuitive.  Men are so careless and they’re creatures of habit.  When a man’s regular habits/routines change drastically this is a red flag that most women pick up on right away.  Cheating is the first thing that we suspect.

When a husband is cheating on his wife, most wives already know and choose to stay with their husbands.  Many wives choose to remain in denial because they don’t want to leave him or confront him.  They want to hold on to the fairy tale that they are happy and have the perfect marriage.  By remaining in denial, their man will continue to practice some level of discretion and show some respect in hopes of her not finding out.  Once a man knows that you are aware of his infidelity, and you choose to stay with him, at this point he will continue to cheat on you throughout your relationship.  He will no longer have the fear of losing you, so he becomes less discreet and more disrespectful.  Women must realize when you confront someone about their infidelity you must be prepared to take some kind of action to let them know you will not tolerate cheating, or you’re better off pretending not to know.

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Girl Code: Why We Need One

Women should be kinder to one another.  Unlike men, who will nod or speak to each other when their eyes meet, women will often hate on another woman by eyeing her from head-to-toe, but without a smile or a hello.

Body shaming another woman is something we should never do.  Society already places unrealistic standards on how women should look.  We come in all shapes and sizes, and everyone isn’t going to look like a supermodel.

Girlfriends’ exes should certainly be off-limits.  That includes ex-boyfriends, ex-husbands and even her crushes.  Cat fights between a woman over a man is definitely foolish.  No man is worth getting not even a strand of your hair pulled out.  There are too many men available to fight over one.

Girlfriends should always have your back when you’re out partying. They should always watch your drink at the bar.   A real girlfriend would never let her friend drive home when she’s been drinking too much.  It’s better to get an Uber than a D.U.I.

When girlfriends have a fallout, they still shouldn’t spill the tea, or tell her secrets on social media.   You should value your friendship and avoid posting negative comments (shade) about someone who you use to call a friend.

Girlfriends should be happy for each other if one of them finds the man of her dreams, regardless of whether she’s still looking for Mr. Right.   Some women are known to abandon their girlfriends when they meet a new man.   We have to remember men will come and go, but your girlfriends will always be there for you when the relationship ends to help you get your slay on.

Whatever happened to “Girl Power?”  Women should want to empower one another.  That’s why I think we need to follow a Girl Code.

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Opposites Attract or Do They?

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In relationships, opposites often are attracted to each other.  They can make a good balance and bring excitement and intrigue to the relationship.  It would require some compromise though since they may have different views in many areas.  If they have drastically different personalities, that could pose a problem when it comes to values and decision-making.  It could also become a power struggle if they are both alphas.  Aggressive people are usually attracted to passive partners.  Couples with very similar personalities usually will get along well, since they may agree on most things.  It would be a safe option to select a person with a similar personality, habits and values, rather than the opposite.

Have you ever wondered why good girls are attracted to bad boys?  It’s the mystery, excitement and the challenge that they bring, being the opposite of themselves.  In friendships opposites would be a good mix, while in a marriage opposites could become a challenge if a couple isn’t able to compromise and respect their differences.

There are some good qualities that opposites can bring to a relationship.  Their different experiences and views may contribute to an open-minded and well-rounded couple.  The qualities one person possess that the other don’t, could actually benefit the relationship.  There may be instances where you will have to come to a middle ground whenever you don’t see eye-to-eye.  If a person has never dated their opposite, it may be worth trying something different just for a change and see where it goes.

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It Takes More Than Great Sex to Keep it Together

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A relationship where sex is the glue holding it together, won’t last.  You’re in bed only a minimal amount of time in a day.  If you can’t get along outside of the bedroom, then there’s not enough compatibility between the couple to sustain the relationship.

Intimacy is very important in a relationship because it bonds and connects the couple, but respect, communication, compatibility and compromise are also needed to hold it together.  A passionless relationship won’t be fulfilling when there isn’t any physical attraction or sexual chemistry.

When sexual compatibility is all you have in a relationship, the passion will fade in time and if you don’t have anything else in common, you will drift apart.  Being friends as well as being lovers may be enough for the relationship to last despite the lack of sexual chemistry.

Sex is the most important thing to most men.  Usually a man’s main focus is on sex, while a woman’s main focus is on love.  When the sex is great and the compatibility is there, generally that can be the recipe for a happy, healthy and lasting relationship.

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Some Couples Need Others to Approve of Their Partners

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Initially when a man meets a woman, some men may seek other men to validate their woman.  Their approval may make him feel that he hit the jackpot.  It’s simply an ego boost for a man to see other men check out his woman and desire her.  Sometimes it will make a man value his woman more knowing other men are interested in her.    When another man says to his friend, “How did you get her?”  Most men will feel complimented rather than offended by that comment.

Other women will sometimes feel your man must have something going on, since you chose to be with him.   In turn, this may make him seem more attractive to other women.  Usually other women will presume that this man must be successful or he must be a great lover.

Women are more likely than men to want or need the approval of their relationship from friends and family.  Often a person’s disapproval is based on their own selfish reasons or because they aren’t in a relationship and they may feel now that you aren’t single anymore, your time spent with them may be limited.  Instead, they should be happy that you found love.

You can listen to the advice of others, but make your decision based solely on your partner’s actions and how they make you feel.  Ultimately other people’s approval shouldn’t matter when it comes to affairs of the heart.

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Break up, but Remain Friends

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In order to be able to be in a relationship, break up and remain friends, you must have a strong friendship from the start.  It’s possible but not likely to lose your man, but keep your friend.  Sometimes that happens when a friendship is taken to the next level, but doesn’t work out romantically.

If a break up is a mutual decision it’s possible you could still be friends.  The key to remaining friends is to realize early on when the relationship isn’t working out and end it civilly before it gets nasty and bitterness sets in.  Both parties must want to salvage the friendship.  It’s easier when it’s someone you have been dating for a short period of time.  When neither of you have invested that much time and energy into the relationship, you could simply say that you enjoy hanging out with them, but you don’t feel there’s chemistry between you.  When only one person wants out of the relationship, then the other person may be offended by suggesting they be placed in the “friend zone.”

Being friends after ending a relationship usually won’t happen immediately if you have been in a relationship for a while.  It will take some time apart to get over the hurt and to forgive them and move on.  There would have to be maturity on both sides and they would both have to no longer have romantic feelings towards each other in order for a friendship to actually work.  This is not the usual situation in a break up.  Sometimes one of them still want to be together.

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Men are From Mars, Women are From Venus

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Men love differently than women do.  Men show their love by protecting and providing for the woman they love.  A woman’s love comes straight from the heart and it’s an emotional attachment and often can become a dependency.  Sometimes a woman will make the man she loves her whole world.

A man’s self-esteem is based mostly on his  money, power and success.  A woman’s self-esteem is based on how she feels about her looks, her body and how men perceive her.

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Beauty; Is it a Blessing or a Curse

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First and foremost, beauty is in the eye of the beholder.  What’s on the inside should have more significance, than what’s on the outside.  Being beautiful has its perks and downfalls.  Women are judged by their appearance more so than men are.

Beauty will get you noticed, but it doesn’t mean a man’s intentions towards you are going to be good.   There have been many beautiful women;  Marilyn Monroe, Halle Berry, etc., whom have not had good relationships with men.   A beautiful woman will never know if a man really loves her for herself, or if she is just someone’s arm candy or possession.  Most of the attention from men is purely lust.  Some men may only want to “hit it” so they can say they had her.

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What is Love

 

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Love is an intense feeling of deep affection.  It is an emotional bond between two people.  There are many types of love.   There’s romantic love, puppy love, self-love, passionate love and unconditional love.

Romantic Love is the courtship stage.  You spend quality time together, sharing romantic moments.  It’s when you are receiving flowers for no reason, gifts like jewelry and traveling to romantic getaways with the one you love.

Puppy Love is an infatuation, or having a crush on someone.   Young children and teenagers experience puppy love.   This type of love doesn’t last.

Self-Love is the most important love of all.  If you don’t love yourself, then it is difficult for someone else to love you.  Having self-esteem and loving yourself, will ensure that you put yourself first.   Self-love is good for your overall well-being.

Passionate Love is the intense sexual attraction for another person.  It is the longing and desire for intimacy with the one you love.   Passionate love doesn’t last, but the love itself can last.

Unconditional Love is the love we have for our children.  It has no conditions, restrictions or limitations placed upon it.  Unconditional love is a lasting love.  It’s the one type of love that is endless.

True love is an attachment to another person.  You sometimes hear someone say, “He or she is the love of my life.”  They mean they love them with all their heart, body and soul.  They could be referred to as “soul mates.”  No matter how much you love someone, you can’t make them love you, if they don’t.  There are other sayings like, “Money can’t buy you love, and Love doesn’t cost a thing.”

When you love someone, you want what’s best for them.  It is an unselfish act.  You are protective of them and care about their feelings and well-being.  You want to be with the one you love, all of the time.  You think  about them constantly.  It’s like an addiction.  “Love can make you do crazy things.”

Sometimes,  you can’t control who you love.  Even when they aren’t good for you.  Especially, if you don’t have self-love or self-esteem.  Many people are in love with the wrong person, that doesn’t deserve their love and the love isn’t reciprocated.  “You can’t help who you love.”

Being in love makes us happy, euphoric, confident and optimistic.   “All you need is love.”

“It’s better to have loved and lost than never to have loved at all.”

To love and be loved in return, is the greatest feeling in the world.