Taking someone else’s man may feel good to your ego, but just know that your days are numbered. What goes around comes around! The other woman is often insecure and have trust issues. A man who cheats on one woman, is inclined to cheat on the one he cheated with. He may trade her in for another woman when he gets bored. A man may also feel that his lover doesn’t have any morals and values, so she may be the one who cheats. Since he already has a wife or girlfriend, she wouldn’t really be cheating on him. (LOL)
A man doesn’t usually marry his mistress. She continues to hang on waiting in the background, while he often never leaves his wife. She doesn’t realize she’s nothing more to him than his “side chick.” Even when a married man says he’s not sleeping with his wife, he usually is.
The other woman isn’t the one who took the vows of fidelity the married man is, but she is an enabler or accomplice to the cheater. The married man is the one who betrayed you. She is only hurting herself by denying herself a chance at having a respectable relationship.
Some things to keep in mind when you are the other woman:
You are sharing a man.
You are always kept a secret.
You are settling for less wasting your time with someone who is not available, when you deserve so much more.
You may have many lonely nights and holidays, because he can’t slip away.
You will always be second to his wife and children.
Trust is always questionable when you have a cheater and a home wrecker.
Just remember, how you get a man is how you’ll lose him. Karma is a bitch!!
Whether a woman is single, in a relationship or a marriage, she should always keep herself up (her hair, body, fashion, make up). Her man will continue to see his bae as the sexy woman he fell in love with. He will also notice other men are eyeing her too.
There is nothing worse than breaking up and having to work so hard at losing weight, getting your sexy back and building your confidence again in order to get yourself back on the dating scene.
Women who slay can rebound much faster and their confidence remains intact after a breakup. Keeping yourself put together at all times is attractive to men. They see a woman who is confident and loves herself. Putting your man and your children first and neglecting yourself, is a sure way to get your man to lose interest and desire for you. Women who get stuck into the wifey and baby mama or superwoman mode, may inadvertently cause their men to stray. These women are often taken for granted and are no longer being romanced by their men.
When you keep yourself market ready, your man will want to do date night to take you out and show you off. What man doesn’t desire some good arm candy? She keeps his lust for her alive. Every woman should want to be the best version of herself. It’s easier to keep up the glam when she is doing it for herself, and not just for a man.
Although your loyalty is always with your girlfriend, you are putting your friendship at risk when you tell your girlfriend that her man is cheating on her. When it is her husband that’s cheating, it could turn her life upside down especially if they have children. It would be less risky, if he is just a boyfriend.
Most women have a suspicion when their man is cheating. Women are intuitive. Men are so careless and they’re creatures of habit. When a man’s regular habits/routines change drastically this is a red flag that most women pick up on right away. Cheating is the first thing that we suspect.
When a husband is cheating on his wife, most wives already know and choose to stay with their husbands. Many wives choose to remain in denial because they don’t want to leave him or confront him. They want to hold on to the fairy tale that they are happy and have the perfect marriage. By remaining in denial, their man will continue to practice some level of discretion and show some respect in hopes of her not finding out. Once a man knows that you are aware of his infidelity, and you choose to stay with him, at this point he will continue to cheat on you throughout your relationship. He will no longer have the fear of losing you, so he becomes less discreet and more disrespectful. Women must realize when you confront someone about their infidelity you must be prepared to take some kind of action to let them know you will not tolerate cheating, or you’re better off pretending not to know.
When a woman first meet a man if she flaunts her sex appeal by dressing too provocative or revealing, a man will see her as an easy score. Men place women in categories almost immediately. A man may think of her as loose and only as a booty call or a friend with benefits. She won’t be taken seriously by him. She definitely won’t be the one he’ll take home to meet his mother or someone he will see himself in a serious relationship with.
Most men still judge women just as harshly as they did years ago. A woman’s appearance, body language and the way she carries herself can cause her to be labeled in a negative way.
Tasteful flirting in a lady-like manner, is as assertive as a woman she be in initiating contact with a man. Being too aggressive with a stranger could be risky behavior. Some men believe an aggressive woman will come on to any man that she is attracted to. He won’t think she only approached him because he’s special. Just like when a woman sleeps with a man too soon, he feels she does this with every man she meets, which may not always be the case.
When a man gets a woman in bed too quickly, and he hasn’t had the time to get to know her, there’s no other reason for him to come back, but for more sex. He doesn’t feel the need to get to know YOU at this point. Remember, every man’s goal is to “hit it”.
First impressions are lasting impressions, so don’t ruin your chances of being taken seriously by behaving in a way that you will be thought of only as a “good-time girl.”
If you have been in a relationship for several years and have been constantly pressuring your man to “put a ring on it”, he may finally give you a ring just to shut you up. Your fiancé may want a three or more year engagement and won’t want to set a wedding date. An open engagement is typically requested by a man who has no intention of getting married (or getting married to you). The ring may only be a stall tactic to keep stringing you along and to appease you or to get you off his back. Two years is sufficient time to be engaged and to plan a wedding.
The best way to avoid getting a “shut up ring”, is not to live together for years, not to have the baby before the marriage and after two years of dating, if your man isn’t talking about a future with you, you should bring up the topic and be prepared to make some serious decisions as to how much longer you are willing to stay in the relationship without knowing whether or not there’s a future with him.
A “shut up engagement ring” that a man asks you to give back to him is more embarrassing and humiliating than never receiving a ring at all. I feel if you are given a ring under false pretenses, you should not give it back if your fiancé calls off the engagement. You deserve to keep the ring as retribution for the pain and suffering he has caused you.
A woman’s time is precious, don’t waste years with someone you have to pressure to marry you. Many women fall into this trap because they feel they have invested so many years of their lives with their man and they are willing to hang in there, year after year, hoping one day that he will want to marry her. It doesn’t take a man years to figure out that he wants to marry a woman. Sometimes a man will hold on to a woman until he meets the one that he wants to marry and settle down with. Some men have been known to do this and will marry that woman within a year.
Women should be kinder to one another. Unlike men, who will nod or speak to each other when their eyes meet, women will often hate on another woman by eyeing her from head-to-toe, but without a smile or a hello.
Body shaming another woman is something we should never do. Society already places unrealistic standards on how women should look. We come in all shapes and sizes, and everyone isn’t going to look like a supermodel.
Girlfriends’ exes should certainly be off-limits. That includes ex-boyfriends, ex-husbands and even her crushes. Cat fights between a woman over a man is definitely foolish. No man is worth getting not even a strand of your hair pulled out. There are too many men available to fight over one.
Girlfriends should always have your back when you’re out partying. They should always watch your drink at the bar. A real girlfriend would never let her friend drive home when she’s been drinking too much. It’s better to get an Uber than a D.U.I.
When girlfriends have a fallout, they still shouldn’t spill the tea, or tell her secrets on social media. You should value your friendship and avoid posting negative comments (shade) about someone who you use to call a friend.
Girlfriends should be happy for each other if one of them finds the man of her dreams, regardless of whether she’s still looking for Mr. Right. Some women are known to abandon their girlfriends when they meet a new man. We have to remember men will come and go, but your girlfriends will always be there for you when the relationship ends to help you get your slay on.
Whatever happened to “Girl Power?” Women should want to empower one another. That’s why I think we need to follow a Girl Code.
Sometimes women will become comfortable in their relationship and will slack up on keeping up their sex appeal. She may stop exercising and begin gaining extra weight or she may stop dressing the way she did when she first met her man. When women become wives and mothers, they tend to get so wrapped up into “mommy mode and/or wifey mode” and she may forget to remain the woman her man fell in love with. Men’s biggest complaint has always been women gaining excess weight after they marry them.
First and foremost, beauty is in the eye of the beholder. What’s on the inside should have more significance, than what’s on the outside. Being beautiful has its perks and downfalls. Women are judged by their appearance more so than men are.
Beauty will get you noticed, but it doesn’t mean a man’s intentions towards you are going to be good. There have been many beautiful women; Marilyn Monroe, Halle Berry, etc., whom have not had good relationships with men. A beautiful woman will never know if a man really loves her for herself, or if she is just someone’s arm candy or possession. Most of the attention from men is purely lust. Some men may only want to “hit it” so they can say they had her.
A woman shouldn’t feel pressured to have sex with a man until she’s ready. She should feel comfortable being with him in an intimate setting. There should have been some conversation as to their sexual needs and desires, so she’ll know if they’re sexually compatible.
In a new relationship the first encounter should be at the woman’s place or at a hotel, not at a man’s place. A woman would be more relaxed and less nervous in her comfort zone. Every woman must have her own personal stash of condoms, lube, etc. She should never leave that responsibility to a man to bring protection. The man should want to make it a memorable experience for her. Starting with a romantic date; dinner and dancing would be a good choice.
When in a relationship, women often lead with their heart, not with their head. They may know someone isn’t right for them, but if they like him, they will let their heart override their head. On the other hand, men usually think with their big or little head, but not with their heart.
A woman’s intuition will often alert her to red flags in a relationship. She may ignore her intuition and in the end, she’ll realize her uneasy feelings about a man were warranted. Women who are smart in all aspects of their lives; their career, their finances, etc., will still tend to make foolish choices when it comes to affairs of the heart. Women will put on blinders or may think they can change a man to be who they want him to be. This rarely works. With men, what you see, is usually what you get.