Taking someone else’s man may feel good to your ego, but just know that your days are numbered. What goes around comes around! The other woman is often insecure and have trust issues. A man who cheats on one woman, is inclined to cheat on the one he cheated with. He may trade her in for another woman when he gets bored. A man may also feel that his lover doesn’t have any morals and values, so she may be the one who cheats. Since he already has a wife or girlfriend, she wouldn’t really be cheating on him. (LOL)
A man doesn’t usually marry his mistress. She continues to hang on waiting in the background, while he often never leaves his wife. She doesn’t realize she’s nothing more to him than his “side chick.” Even when a married man says he’s not sleeping with his wife, he usually is.
The other woman isn’t the one who took the vows of fidelity the married man is, but she is an enabler or accomplice to the cheater. The married man is the one who betrayed you. She is only hurting herself by denying herself a chance at having a respectable relationship.
Some things to keep in mind when you are the other woman:
You are sharing a man.
You are always kept a secret.
You are settling for less wasting your time with someone who is not available, when you deserve so much more.
You may have many lonely nights and holidays, because he can’t slip away.
You will always be second to his wife and children.
Trust is always questionable when you have a cheater and a home wrecker.
Just remember, how you get a man is how you’ll lose him. Karma is a bitch!!
Most men are true to who they are, even early on in a relationship. Many women will overlook or accept a man’s annoying behavior hoping to change him to make him into her fantasy. The fact is, you can’t change a man unless he is willing to change, so stop trying! He may attempt to change for you, but it won’t last.
Women often try to mold a man to become who she wants him to be. Men will resent that they aren’t good enough as they are. A man’s ego can become bruised. He may feel insecure or feel emasculated. This will definitely destroy a relationship or cause him to cheat. You can’t raise or train a grown man. Sometimes a man will see you as trying to control him. He will remain resistant and may also feel that you don’t really love him. Some other woman will gladly accept him as he is.
Some of the most difficult changes for anyone to make immediately are overcoming:
Everyone has some flaws, bad habits or quirky traits that can be annoying, but are they worth accepting or are they a deal breaker? Ultimately, that is the question you have to ask yourself.
Most men find the thrill of the chase very exciting and an adrenaline rush. Men generally welcome a challenge. They are strategic thinkers and love to hunt and conquer. A man usually gets bored much quicker than a woman does, therefore they tend to find anything “new” exciting. Having to put in the work to win a woman’s heart wouldn’t be a deal breaker for most men. A man will chance rejection if that turns out to be the outcome. It’s exciting for a man to pursue the woman of his dreams, even if he feels she is playing hard to get. Some men will do whatever it takes to reel her in as long as he knows he has a chance. (It’s like a chess match)
Men place more value on a woman he had to work hard to get. He probably won’t take her for granted either. Sometimes it’s a game or a sport to a man. He may bet his friends that he will get her number. The thrill of the chase is also about a man’s ego. Some men will pursue an elusive woman who seems unobtainable, just for the challenge or competition. To land her would be a great score, after all he succeeded where other men failed. It would be like hitting the jackpot and taking home the prize!