Is Monogamy Still a Valid Expectation


Although it seems that everyone is cheating, that’s simply not the case.  It’s definitely easier to cheat since there is easy access to pornography, cybersex and hookup sites on social media.  You can remain at home, while surfing the internet for sex.  It all depends on what you define as cheating.  Some women believe that all men cheat.   In reality, who are the men cheating with? (other women)   Statistics show there’s not much difference in the percentage of men that cheat versus women.

Couples can remain faithful if they are committed to each other, their communication is open and honest and if everyone’s emotional and physical needs are being met.  Cheating is definitely a choice.  The same effort put into cheating should be put in keeping your relationship exciting and your bond stronger.

If you choose to remain faithful to your man then you should continue to expect him to live by the same standard.  You don’t have any control over the actions of anyone else, but it all depends on what you are willing to accept.  Some couples fear that they will encounter infidelity issues, so they decide to have an open relationship or to be polyamorous.  They feel this option will allow them to stay together, despite being with other people.  These relationships don’t necessarily have a greater chance of surviving because one of them could still fall for someone else.

It’s always best to end a committed relationship first, so you are available to date other people.   Monogamy doesn’t work for everyone.  Sometime we knowingly choose the wrong person.  If you know a man has fidelity issues, you are setting your relationship up for failure by expecting him to be faithful.  It’s not a good idea to go into a marriage knowing you won’t be monogamous.  It would be better to remain single and be honest with your partners as to your intentions.  There’s no need to lie since there are women who don’t mind being someone’s booty call or a friend with benefits.  These women will agree to these types of relationships.  Since there’s no commitment involved in these hookups, everyone involved is free to be with as many people as they want.

Staying committed to one partner for a lifetime definitely isn’t going to be easy, but it can happen if both partners vow to do whatever it takes to keep their love alive.  Sadly, there’s only a 50/50 chance for marriage to last and one third of marriages end due to infidelity, but yours don’t have to be included in the statistics.


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