Society sets a double standard when it comes to men and women. That standard usually favor men. Men get to be themselves without any judgment.
Men can sleep around and they will be referred to as a “player.” People will say he’s just being a man. Women on the other hand, will be labeled as a “thot”. It could ruin her reputation.
A man can date a woman young enough to be his daughter and there’s no stigma attached to it. Women who date younger men are referred to as “cougars.”
Men earn more money doing the exact same job as a woman, just because he is a man.
Men are more likely to hold higher positions than women, just because of his sex.
Men don’t have to suffer through menstruation, PMS, childbirth and menopause as women do.
Men stand to urinate, so they can go anywhere at any time. (in the woods, in a bottle LOL). Women have to struggle to squat over a dirty toilet seat.
The men’s room is never as crowded as the lines to the ladies’ room.
You don’t want to project that you are desperately seeking a man or that you are not complete without a man. It shows insecurity and desperation. Men can see it as if it was written on your forehead. A lousy relationship is never better than no relationship at all. You can do bad all by yourself. You have to be happy in your own skin. Your relationship status doesn’t define you. You are uniquely you, in or out of a relationship.
Making another person the center of your life and losing your individuality is a risky emotional attachment. Men don’t feel they have to be attached to a woman in order to exist. Don’t look for a man to make you happy. You and only you, have the power to make you happy. Happiness is a state of mind. You have to choose to be happy. Women that are dependent on men don’t have any power in the relationship. They are considered to be needy and insecure.
YOU must place value on yourself. If you don’t value yourself, a man will definitely pick up on it and he probably won’t value you either. You will get from a man what you expect from him and what you think you deserve. He will also give you what you are used to.
Let him know how you want to be treated. You can’t change a man, what you see is what you get. Know what your deal breakers are. Have standards that he should meet. If you don’t have high self-esteem, learn how to fake it. Being high maintenance isn’t a bad thing. It shows self-worth.
REAL LOVE is: Patient, kind, protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.
Corinthians 13: 4-13
You need more than love alone to keep a relationship together.
A one-sided love affair doesn’t work. It takes two hearts joining together.
He has swag, but he doesn’t have a job. Love can’t pay the bills.
Love without trust, isn’t love at all. You are trusting your loved one with your heart.
In addition to being in love, you need to have compatibility, communication, compromise and other qualities to have a lasting union.
You love him and there are sparks in the bedroom, but outside the bedroom you fight.
He mistreat and disrespect you, but you love him just the same. Love yourself more. Let it go.
LOVE is a beautiful thing, but LOVE doesn’t conquer all.
Sometimes a straight man won’t befriend a woman unless he is attracted to her. He may settle for friendship, hoping it will develop into a relationship. You will notice that he will get jealous of your attraction to other men when you are with him. You will catch him staring at your curves. A man will feel that you are picking up on his interest in you and may think you feel the same way about him. The more time he spends with you, at some point he may sneak a kiss. When he knows you have a boyfriend, but you spend more time with him, he feels he is gaining ground. There may become a time when he gives up on the friendship because he wants more than you are willing to give.
Most men don’t want to, or are comfortable with showing their feelings.
It’s a man thing. Men are taught as boys to hide their emotions. (Ex. boys don’t cry)
They think they may seem weak or desperate.
Some men feel they have to hold back to feel they are in control.
Men sometimes think this is how they can keep the edge.
They think women will want them more and try harder to please them, if they are not sure how he feels about them.
It’s a fact that when men do fall in love, they fall fast and hard. They try to hide this from you. It takes men much longer to get over a break up, too. Women will cry and get comfort from their girlfriends, while men have to endure the pain within. They can’t let their friends or anyone know that they are hurting or they’ll be told to man up.
Men express their love differently than women. A man will show you he loves you without saying it. Of course, we like to hear him say I love you every now and then. You will know that he loves you by his actions. He will protect and provide for you.
Don’t worry as long as he keep coming back, he is into you.
Here are a few of the qualities men find unattractive in women:
I n s e c u r i t y
C l i n g y a n d n e e d y
L a c k o f f e m i n i n i t y
B e i n g t o o m a d e u p
G o l d d i g g e r s
B e i n g f a k e
L o u d a n d r a t c h e t
D r o p p i n g “F” b o m b i n p u b l i c
B e i n g a b o o z e r
B e i n g t o o “t u r n t u p”
B a b y d a d d y d r a m a
B a g g a g e
N e g a t i v i t y
N a g g i n g
First and foremost, a man has to already be attracted to you in order for you to reel him in. There isn’t a magic trick that can get a man to be into you, if he isn’t.
The following scenarios can help to give you an edge.
ACTION: Keep him guessing about how you really feel about him.
OUTCOME: He will try harder to win you over. Men do like a challenge.
ACTION: Don’t constantly call or text him.
OUTCOME: He will notice and he will be the one checking up on you.
ACTION: Don’t pressure him to spend time with you. Have a see you, when I see you attitude.
OUTCOME: He will be wondering who you are spending time with and he will want to spend more time with you.
ACTION: Don’t be too available. If he calls you at the last minute, don’t change your plans for him.
OUTCOME: He will know you are not waiting by the phone for his call, and that you have a life.
ACTION: Be unpredictable.
OUTCOME: Having spontaneity will intrigue him and he will be anxious to see you.
Being a single woman allows you freedom to live your life by your own rules. It’s a good feeling to be able to do whatever you want, whenever you want and not have to answer to anyone.
Married women sometimes envy your lifestyle. Statistics show married women are less happy than single women. They still try to uphold the “super woman” title. They work, take care of the children, the households, the husband and are the last ones to get to bed at night. They struggle to take time out for themselves. You don’t have to cook dinner, you can eat cereal for dinner if you want. You have all the “me time” you desire to pamper yourself. You can have a candle light bubble bath, drink red wine, listen to jazz and don’t have to worry about being sleep-deprived the next day. (make sure you have your goodie drawer with your “Bedroom Kandi” after all that! LOL
Girlfriends fill the void when you aren’t in a relationship. You can count on them to hang with you and you can get your “flirt on” daily. You can hone-in and perfect your eye-catching, man magnet skills. Girls only getaways can be quite adventurous as well. Girls night out can happen any night of the week. It doesn’t matter what hour you get in, there isn’t a jealous man at home waiting up to argue with you.
Men like women who stand their ground and are not pushovers. It turns him on when you give him a little trouble. Also being unpredictable and not being too agreeable makes you a challenge. He respects you when he know you won’t put up with his mess. When you put him in his place, he secretly likes it. He may call you bossy or pushy, but he admires you and sees you as his equal. You’ll notice he keeps on coming back for more. When you make demands as to how you want to be treated, what you want and expect from him, he really values you because he knows you value yourself.
Men like a challenge, he doesn’t get bored and things don’t become monotonous. It keeps him on his “A” game. When you are just like all the other girls he’s dated, you’re not special to him. Being his puppet or his “beck and call girl” doesn’t get you any brownie points either. He loses respect for you when he has you wrapped around his fingers. Continue reading