To Fake, or Not to Fake



Most women have faked an orgasm at some point in their lives.  There are many reasons why a woman will choose to fake it.  Some of them are:  she’s tired, not feeling well, she want to go to sleep, want to get it over with, she’ll fake it to please her man, not to hurt her man’s feelings, because she feels he may cheat on her or leave her if he isn’t able to satisfy her or she is insecure thinking that something is wrong with her since she can’t reach an orgasm.

Every woman is different so you may have to guide your man on to how to please you.  If you fake it, you’re boosting a man’s ego. He will believe he’s such a great lover.  You’re giving him a false sense of achievement or validation.  I can surely understand if he really tries hard to get you there, and you still can’t climax.  This is a man who you should communicate with.  He would being willing to experiment with different measures;  toys, kama sutra, porn, intense foreplay, role play or whatever it takes to get you to “The Big O.”   Statistics show 60% of women “fake it to make it.”

It’s a fact that a woman can be sexually satisfied even though she hasn’t climaxed.  Of course, with both partners reaching an orgasm would be the icing on the cake.  Being familiar with your own body (masturbation), can allow you to know how to reach sexual satisfaction.

If you’re in a serious committed relationship, it isn’t worth faking it on a regular basis.  When a man thinks he’s satisfying you he will have no reason or clue that he needs to do more to get you there.  You will have to continue to fake it and remain sexually unfulfilled.  The solution could just be the need for more intense stimulation and longer foreplay.  In a casual relationship;   booty calls, friends with benefits or one night stands, if you choose to fake it to make it, that’s fine.


The First Sexual Encounter With Your New Man



A woman shouldn’t feel pressured to have sex with a man until she’s ready.  She should feel comfortable being with him in an intimate setting.  There should have been some conversation as to their sexual needs and desires, so she’ll know if they’re sexually compatible.

In a new relationship the first encounter should be at the woman’s place or at a hotel, not at a man’s place.  A woman would be more relaxed and less nervous in her comfort zone.  Every woman must have her own personal stash of condoms, lube, etc.  She should never leave that responsibility to a man to bring protection.  The man should want to make it a memorable experience for her.  Starting with a romantic date;  dinner and dancing would be a good choice.

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