Men are initially attracted to a woman they have an instant sexual attraction to. Women who are confident, attractive and has the body type they like. A woman’s physical attributes are what immediately attracts a man to a woman. He will undress her in his mind.
Men also desire women who are feminine and girly; showing their legs, wearing heels, perfume, being fashionable and some prefer a long, shiny head of hair. Appearing to be happy, smiling and having a great personality will attract men. Having poise and self-esteem are shown through your body language, your walk and in your conversation.
Having confidence and self-esteem go hand-in-hand with loving yourself. Self-love is necessary in order for a person to feel they deserve to be loved, and to put themselves first, before others. When a woman loves a man more than she loves herself, she will sacrifice her wants and needs for his to please her man.
Confidence and self-love are attractive qualities in a mate. I think it may be hard for someone to truly love a person who doesn’t love themself. It’s ironic though, that not loving yourself doesn’t prevent a person from being able to love someone else. The problem is when you love someone more than you love yourself, they’ll probably love you less and may take your love for granted.