Things a Man Won’t Tell You

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First and foremost, a man won’t tell you what is on his mind or how he feels.  He won’t share his worries, his insecurities, jealousy or anything that may be bothering him.  A man fears he will seem weak.  Men are taught as boys to be strong at all times.

Your man won’t share negative information about his friends or family with you.  Men are much better at keeping secrets than women are.  Men don’t disclose anything about themselves, in their past or present that he is embarrassed about or uncomfortable with.  Most men won’t tell you that they cheated on all their girlfriends or their ex-wife, or that he is a former alcoholic, drug user, or that he beat his last girlfriend.

Most men won’t tell you about their adverse health conditions or that they are popping the ” little blue pill”.

Some men lust after other women, maybe even one of your girlfriends.  He knows better than to share that with you.  (LOL)

Men don’t usually tell you the moment that they fall for you or why they hate to say the words, “I love you”.  It makes them feel vulnerable.

All men hate it when their woman won’t shut up, but he usually doesn’t want to hurt her feelings by telling her.  He would rather tune her out.  A man won’t always tell his woman that he need space.  He will start pulling away from her instead.

Most men won’t tell you that he’s bored in the bedroom and wants to try something new or that he craves more sex.  He would rather get it elsewhere.

The one thing all men refuse to tell you the truth about when you ask them, is how you look in an outfit or anything regarding your appearance, whether it’s your weight, make up, hair style, etc.  They know their woman can’t handle the truth, if it’s not the answer she wants to hear from him.

Should You Tell Your Girlfriend Her Man is Cheating on Her?

 

 

Although your loyalty is always with your girlfriend, you are putting your friendship at risk when you tell your girlfriend that her man is cheating on her.  When it is her husband that’s cheating, it could turn her life upside down especially if they have children.  It would be less risky, if he is just a boyfriend.

Most women have a suspicion when their man is cheating.  Women are intuitive.  Men are so careless and they’re creatures of habit.  When a man’s regular habits/routines change drastically this is a red flag that most women pick up on right away.  Cheating is the first thing that we suspect.

When a husband is cheating on his wife, most wives already know and choose to stay with their husbands.  Many wives choose to remain in denial because they don’t want to leave him or confront him.  They want to hold on to the fairy tale that they are happy and have the perfect marriage.  By remaining in denial, their man will continue to practice some level of discretion and show some respect in hopes of her not finding out.  Once a man knows that you are aware of his infidelity, and you choose to stay with him, at this point he will continue to cheat on you throughout your relationship.  He will no longer have the fear of losing you, so he becomes less discreet and more disrespectful.  Women must realize when you confront someone about their infidelity you must be prepared to take some kind of action to let them know you will not tolerate cheating, or you’re better off pretending not to know.

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Social Media Can Ruin Relationships

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Putting all of your personal business out there is not good for any relationship.  Some information should be kept private between you and your man and shouldn’t even be shared with your girlfriends.  Have you noticed that couples on Reality TV have a greater risk of breaking up or divorcing?

Too many couples spend so much of their time on social media rather than spending quality time with each other.  Social media are often used for cheating purposes, connecting with random men or women or reconnecting with former lovers.  Social media can cause temptation, which could lead to infidelity.  Excessive time spent on social media sites can cause jealousy, insecurity, create distance, trust issues and conflict in a relationship. Connecting in a flirtatious way, by liking sexy photos of the opposite sex can be a sign of trouble.  Social media can become addictive just like pornography can become to some people.

You should never assume your Relationship Status without first discussing it with the other person as to where you are, and to make sure you are on the same page as far as your relationship status is concerned.  If you’re in a relationship and your man or woman refuses to change his/his status on Facebook or refuses to post photos with you together, it’s likely they are purposely excluding you to hide that they are in a relationship.  This is definitely a red flag that you shouldn’t ignore.

Constantly being distracting with our cellphones has also become more engaging than communicating with each other.  Have you ever noticed while dining in a restaurant, couples are on their phones and not talking to one another?  Couples fight over sharing passwords and pass codes all of the time.  This will certainly cause trust issues in a relationship.

While you’re connecting with others and feeling the pressure to increase the number of friends and followers you have on social media, be careful not to allow social media to cause you to disconnect from the person who should mean the most to you.  In other words, don’t let social media take over your life!

 

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On a Date, Who Should Pay?

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When you’re on a date, the person who asks for the date is generally the person who pays the check whether it’s the man or the woman.  If you want to contribute, you could offer to pay the tip.  A gentleman may pay the bill regardless, but he isn’t obligated to pay.

It’s not being considerate if you purposely pick the most expensive restaurant and order the most expensive items on the menu or order several drinks without your date asking you if you would like to order another drink.  It may backfire on you.  You may not get a second date. (LOL)  If you’ve been dating for a while and are considered to be in a relationship, then it’s normal that either of you pay for the meals on a date.

When a man asks you to go out with him, if he intents for you to pay or split the check, that conversation should always take place before you go out.  This way you can agree to or cancel the date.  I feel going “dutch” on a first date isn’t worth your time!  You’re better off going out with your girlfriends instead.  If a woman starts out paying for the dates, then she will be expected to continue to do so. On a first date, I feel it’s best to let the man select the restaurant because it will tell you something about his character (whether he’s cheap or not trying to impress you).  If a man feels that he doesn’t want to spend his money on a date with someone he may not have  chemistry and attraction with, then he should always have first dates at coffee shops or happy hours.

Tip:  Always google the restaurant in advance to have an idea of the place you are going and confirm your date the day before.  If you’re not comfortable with the place or the location, cancel the date and lose his number.  If the first date isn’t impressive, it will only go downhill from there.

 

Blinded by Love

Sometimes when a woman is in love, she will be in denial or oblivious to all the red flags that are present early on in the relationship.  Women often hope they can change a man’s bad habits or annoying ways because she loves him and want the relationship to work out.  Your friends won’t have blinders on and will see all the alarming issues even when you are blind-sided by love.  You should pay attention to what they tell you, and keep your eyes open.

When you are in love, you must think with your head not with your heart.    Love can make you do crazy things.  I guess that’s why we often hear people say, “I hope he or she did it for love.”

Some women so desperately want to be in a relationship that they will hold on even when they’re not a good fit.  Society also contributes to this way of thinking by making women feel insecure about themselves when they are not attached.

Always guard your heart, be patient and listen to your gut.  It’s easier to fall in love, but much harder to mend a broken heart.

It’s Easier to Get a Man, When You Already Have One

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Have you ever noticed when you are actively looking for a man, you just can’t find the one you want.  There’s something about allowing attraction to happen naturally.  Sometimes women may be sending signals that men interpret as being desperate.

People are often attracted to whom they can’t have.  Maybe that’s why some people are attracted to someone who is unavailable.  A man’s ego and competitive nature may cause him to seek out a woman who is already taken.

Some people purposely get involved with someone who is emotionally unavailable.  They may choose these types of relationships because of past hurts, rejection, abandonment, fear of commitment or low self-esteem.  In either case, they are trying to avoid getting emotionally attached and repeat heartache.  Sometimes it’s the fantasy that they crave of trying to win someone who is unattainable.

Lose your “baggage” from past relationships and try to open your heart to the possibility of love, that you must learn to believe that you truly deserve.

 

So, Your Man Wants an Open Relationship

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Today some couples are considering the non traditional option of having an open relationship.  They feel that since so many relationships end due to infidelity, that they’ll eliminate that factor from their relationship.  Some people actually don’t believe in being monogamous.  Others want the freedom to have different sex partners, but want to be honest about it, rather than cheat.  Sometimes boredom in the bedroom may cause couples to contemplate an open relationship.

A couple must both desire to explore this option and must mutually agree upon this type of relationship and ground rules must be put in place.  Also they would have to be secure,  trusting and not jealous individuals.  First of all, in order for this to possibly work, this type of relationship must be simply casual sex, without any emotional connection.  (I don’t think anyone can predict whether or not they will develop feelings for someone else).  That’s the number one risk factor with this type of relationship.  Secondly, the more sexual partners you have, the greater the chance of getting STDs, or an unexpected pregnancy.  All partners must practice safe sex.

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