The Lies Men Tell

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In a new relationship some men will lie about their intentions, as to whether they really want to be in a monogamous relationship.  They’ll tell you what they think you want to hear.  A man will take the chance at lying in order to continue seeing a woman he’s interested in at the time, knowing at some point she may find out his real intention.  He will hope that by the time she finds out the truth, she will be hooked on him and will not want to walk away from the relationship.

Men will also lie about their relationship status.  He may have a girlfriend, a booty call or a friend with benefits that he’s holding on to.  Men tend to lie about the reasons their past relationship ended as well.  Often they’ll say their girlfriend cheated on them, when they were the one who cheated.  They will feel you will have sympathy for them and think they are a nice guy.

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Foreplay = The “Big O”

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Foreplay starts long before you get to the bedroom.  It can begin in the kitchen, while cooking with just grabbing her butt or his.  Whispering dirty talk to each other during the day or sexting while at work or buying her flowers are also methods of foreplay.   Getting your man or woman aroused and anticipating intimacy long before it happens, can be a good build-up to the finale.

Being romantic;  kissing, touching and even dancing can be very sensual and arousing for both the man and the woman.  Foreplay is the appetizer before the main course.  It gets all the juices flowing.  The most time should be spent on awakening the senses (arousal).  Taking the time to explore your lover’s body from head to toe will definitely pay off to reaching the “Big O”.   It’s the same principle as preheating the oven before cooking the meal.  (LOL)

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Leave Him in the Recycle Bin

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Sometimes when a woman isn’t in a relationship she may get lonely or want to have her “needs” met.  She may decide to recycle an old flame to fill the void.   She may use him just for sex.  Most men will accept the offer.  They won’t let on, but they may feel you are desperate or that you are not over him.  There was a reason why you broke up with him in the first place.  The fear of someone new or the unknown, may cause a woman to go back to whom she is familiar, even though it is not who is best for her.  Deep down women know the relationship isn’t going to be long-term, but she will deal with it for now until  someone else comes along.  She will see it as a safe option, since it will be someone she knows instead of a stranger.

Women have the tendency to look back on what could have been.  She may want to forget the bad things and choose to hold on to the good times.  Her past lover may have been great in bed, but that’s probably where it ends.   Often times comparing lovers can cause a woman to long for an ex, even if it’s just sexually.

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What is Love

 

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Love is an intense feeling of deep affection.  It is an emotional bond between two people.  There are many types of love.   There’s romantic love, puppy love, self-love, passionate love and unconditional love.

Romantic Love is the courtship stage.  You spend quality time together, sharing romantic moments.  It’s when you are receiving flowers for no reason, gifts like jewelry and traveling to romantic getaways with the one you love.

Puppy Love is an infatuation, or having a crush on someone.   Young children and teenagers experience puppy love.   This type of love doesn’t last.

Self-Love is the most important love of all.  If you don’t love yourself, then it is difficult for someone else to love you.  Having self-esteem and loving yourself, will ensure that you put yourself first.   Self-love is good for your overall well-being.

Passionate Love is the intense sexual attraction for another person.  It is the longing and desire for intimacy with the one you love.   Passionate love doesn’t last, but the love itself can last.

Unconditional Love is the love we have for our children.  It has no conditions, restrictions or limitations placed upon it.  Unconditional love is a lasting love.  It’s the one type of love that is endless.

True love is an attachment to another person.  You sometimes hear someone say, “He or she is the love of my life.”  They mean they love them with all their heart, body and soul.  They could be referred to as “soul mates.”  No matter how much you love someone, you can’t make them love you, if they don’t.  There are other sayings like, “Money can’t buy you love, and Love doesn’t cost a thing.”

When you love someone, you want what’s best for them.  It is an unselfish act.  You are protective of them and care about their feelings and well-being.  You want to be with the one you love, all of the time.  You think  about them constantly.  It’s like an addiction.  “Love can make you do crazy things.”

Sometimes,  you can’t control who you love.  Even when they aren’t good for you.  Especially, if you don’t have self-love or self-esteem.  Many people are in love with the wrong person, that doesn’t deserve their love and the love isn’t reciprocated.  “You can’t help who you love.”

Being in love makes us happy, euphoric, confident and optimistic.   “All you need is love.”

“It’s better to have loved and lost than never to have loved at all.”

To love and be loved in return, is the greatest feeling in the world.

He Cheated, Now What?

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When you have been cheated on, the first thing you have to do is decide if the relationship is worth saving.  Both of you must really want to work at gaining trust and healing from the pain and disappointment of the betrayal that goes along with the infidelity.

Communication is needed to understand what caused the infidelity in the first place.  This is crucial in hopes of preventing it from happening again.  Couples counseling could help with an unbiased third-party.   He has to earn your trust again.  Trust is very hard to gain, once it has been lost.

Don’t obsess over information about the other woman.  It was your man who betrayed your trust, the other woman doesn’t have any loyalty to you.  You need to know if it was a one-time affair or a lengthy affair.  A slip up is easier to forgive.  If it was with an ex, that could mean there are still underlying feelings between them.   That would pose a problem in trying to salvage the relationship.  If he has cheated on you before or he has a pattern of cheating in all of his past relationships, he most likely will cheat on you again.

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