When a woman first meet a man if she flaunts her sex appeal by dressing too provocative or revealing, a man will see her as an easy score. Men place women in categories almost immediately. A man may think of her as loose and only as a booty call or a friend with benefits. She won’t be taken seriously by him. She definitely won’t be the one he’ll take home to meet his mother or someone he will see himself in a serious relationship with.
Most men still judge women just as harshly as they did years ago. A woman’s appearance, body language and the way she carries herself can cause her to be labeled in a negative way.
Tasteful flirting in a lady-like manner, is as assertive as a woman she be in initiating contact with a man. Being too aggressive with a stranger could be risky behavior. Some men believe an aggressive woman will come on to any man that she is attracted to. He won’t think she only approached him because he’s special. Just like when a woman sleeps with a man too soon, he feels she does this with every man she meets, which may not always be the case.
When a man gets a woman in bed too quickly, and he hasn’t had the time to get to know her, there’s no other reason for him to come back, but for more sex. He doesn’t feel the need to get to know YOU at this point. Remember, every man’s goal is to “hit it”.
First impressions are lasting impressions, so don’t ruin your chances of being taken seriously by behaving in a way that you will be thought of only as a “good-time girl.”
A man will get bored if there’s constant predictability or monotonous routine in his relationship. Men crave spontaneity and a challenge to keep their interest. It’s like playing the game of chess. Men enjoy strategizing their next move in order to reel her in. Keeping a man unsure of your feelings, will stop him from taking you for granted and in turn from losing interest in you. Being unpredictable and changing up things at a whim, will make him want to continue seeing you.
Men are hunters by nature. They are always up for a challenge. Someone who cause them to have to up their game in order to win her over will remain interesting to him. The thrill of the chase is intriguing to a man. He won’t lose interest in a woman who wasn’t too easy to get in the first place. The harder a man has to work at pursuing a woman, the more he will value her.
Contrary to what most women think, most men still expect to have to pursue a woman. A man’s ego will cause him to continue to chase after a woman he wants. Men are competitive and don’t like to give up or feel defeated. She would be more interesting to him than a woman who is chasing after him.
Have you ever noticed when you are actively looking for a man, you just can’t find the one you want. There’s something about allowing attraction to happen naturally. Sometimes women may be sending signals that men interpret as being desperate.
People are often attracted to whom they can’t have. Maybe that’s why some people are attracted to someone who is unavailable. A man’s ego and competitive nature may cause him to seek out a woman who is already taken.
Some people purposely get involved with someone who is emotionally unavailable. They may choose these types of relationships because of past hurts, rejection, abandonment, fear of commitment or low self-esteem. In either case, they are trying to avoid getting emotionally attached and repeat heartache. Sometimes it’s the fantasy that they crave of trying to win someone who is unattainable.
Lose your “baggage” from past relationships and try to open your heart to the possibility of love, that you must learn to believe that you truly deserve.
Today some couples are considering the non traditional option of having an open relationship. They feel that since so many relationships end due to infidelity, that they’ll eliminate that factor from their relationship. Some people actually don’t believe in being monogamous. Others want the freedom to have different sex partners, but want to be honest about it, rather than cheat. Sometimes boredom in the bedroom may cause couples to contemplate an open relationship.
A couple must both desire to explore this option and must mutually agree upon this type of relationship and ground rules must be put in place. Also they would have to be secure, trusting and not jealous individuals. First of all, in order for this to possibly work, this type of relationship must be simply casual sex, without any emotional connection. (I don’t think anyone can predict whether or not they will develop feelings for someone else). That’s the number one risk factor with this type of relationship. Secondly, the more sexual partners you have, the greater the chance of getting STDs, or an unexpected pregnancy. All partners must practice safe sex.
When subscribing to online dating sites your profile and profile photo will determine how you will be perceived by others. It gives in a brief synopsis of your personality, your interests and your appearance. You should look approachable. Being too made up and dressing too provocatively will cause men to see you just as a party girl or a good time girl, but they won’t take you serious.
Posting at least five photos of yourself is a must. You should have some full body shots as well. Wearing dresses in some of your photos, instead of all pants and maxi dresses will show your femininity. Besides, men want to see your curves, your style and how you look in your clothes.
When meeting someone for the first time you should try to be a good listener. Sometimes a man or woman will show signs of being controlling or some other negative behavior. Another red flag is a person who constantly talks about their ex. This is an indication that they aren’t over them.
You can judge a person’s character by how they treat others; waiters, etc. Being rude to other people is a sign that they’re not a nice person.
If a man is late to a date, and he hasn’t called or texted you to let you know and to apologize for his lateness, this is a sign that he doesn’t value your time, he’s inconsiderate and this will only worsen if you continue to date him.
Sometimes women will become comfortable in their relationship and will slack up on keeping up their sex appeal. She may stop exercising and begin gaining extra weight or she may stop dressing the way she did when she first met her man. When women become wives and mothers, they tend to get so wrapped up into “mommy mode and/or wifey mode” and she may forget to remain the woman her man fell in love with. Men’s biggest complaint has always been women gaining excess weight after they marry them.
When couples first meet they may like each other, have sexual chemistry and physical attraction. This is not love at first sight. It’s simply infatuation or sometimes lust.
When a man says it was love at first sight, he means he loves what he sees at the moment. It’s physical and sexual attraction and chemistry, but not necessarily love. It may or may not last once a man gets to know you. He may not like what’s on the inside; your personality, behavior, morals and values, etc.
When you’re in a relationship and it feels like you have to put so much effort into it to make it work, he’s probably not into you. It could be that you aren’t his type or you’re not compatible.
If a man disappears days without any contact with you, he isn’t into you. When your relationship feels like you are on a roller coaster ride, generally that means it’s in trouble. He may not want to let go altogether. He may just want to string you along as his piece on the side, when he’s in between relationships or when he has a dry spell. Usually in this case, he’s just using you for sex. You may become his booty call, but not his girlfriend.
Men who don’t have any interest in what’s going on with you or don’t try to get to know you or share things with you about himself, isn’t into you.
If a man see you infrequently or waits days to call or to return your call or text, isn’t into you. A man who doesn’t make time to spend with you, isn’t into you. At some point he will call with some lame excuse. There’s no such thing as being too busy to call or text. Excuses, excuses, excuses!
First and foremost, beauty is in the eye of the beholder. What’s on the inside should have more significance, than what’s on the outside. Being beautiful has its perks and downfalls. Women are judged by their appearance more so than men are.
Beauty will get you noticed, but it doesn’t mean a man’s intentions towards you are going to be good. There have been many beautiful women; Marilyn Monroe, Halle Berry, etc., whom have not had good relationships with men. A beautiful woman will never know if a man really loves her for herself, or if she is just someone’s arm candy or possession. Most of the attention from men is purely lust. Some men may only want to “hit it” so they can say they had her.