Some Couples Need Others to Approve of Their Partners

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Initially when a man meets a woman, some men may seek other men to validate their woman.  Their approval may make him feel that he hit the jackpot.  It’s simply an ego boost for a man to see other men check out his woman and desire her.  Sometimes it will make a man value his woman more knowing other men are interested in her.    When another man says to his friend, “How did you get her?”  Most men will feel complimented rather than offended by that comment.

Other women will sometimes feel your man must have something going on, since you chose to be with him.   In turn, this may make him seem more attractive to other women.  Usually other women will presume that this man must be successful or he must be a great lover.

Women are more likely than men to want or need the approval of their relationship from friends and family.  Often a person’s disapproval is based on their own selfish reasons or because they aren’t in a relationship and they may feel now that you aren’t single anymore, your time spent with them may be limited.  Instead, they should be happy that you found love.

You can listen to the advice of others, but make your decision based solely on your partner’s actions and how they make you feel.  Ultimately other people’s approval shouldn’t matter when it comes to affairs of the heart.

Why Men Suddenly Lose Interest

 

A man will get bored if there’s constant predictability or monotonous routine in his relationship.  Men crave spontaneity and a challenge to keep their interest.  It’s like playing the game of chess.  Men enjoy strategizing their next move in order to reel her in.  Keeping a man unsure of your feelings, will stop him from taking you for granted and in turn from losing interest in you.  Being unpredictable and changing up things at a whim, will make him want to continue seeing you.

Men are hunters by nature.  They are always up for a challenge.  Someone who cause them to have to up their game in order to win her over will remain interesting to him.  The thrill of the chase is intriguing to a man.  He won’t lose interest in a woman who wasn’t too easy to get in the first place.  The harder a man has to work at pursuing a woman, the more he will value her.

Contrary to what most women think, most men still expect to have to pursue a woman.  A man’s ego will cause him to continue to chase after a woman he wants.  Men are competitive and don’t like to give up or feel defeated.  She would be more interesting to him than a woman who is chasing after him.

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It’s Easier to Get a Man, When You Already Have One

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Have you ever noticed when you are actively looking for a man, you just can’t find the one you want.  There’s something about allowing attraction to happen naturally.  Sometimes women may be sending signals that men interpret as being desperate.

People are often attracted to whom they can’t have.  Maybe that’s why some people are attracted to someone who is unavailable.  A man’s ego and competitive nature may cause him to seek out a woman who is already taken.

Some people purposely get involved with someone who is emotionally unavailable.  They may choose these types of relationships because of past hurts, rejection, abandonment, fear of commitment or low self-esteem.  In either case, they are trying to avoid getting emotionally attached and repeat heartache.  Sometimes it’s the fantasy that they crave of trying to win someone who is unattainable.

Lose your “baggage” from past relationships and try to open your heart to the possibility of love, that you must learn to believe that you truly deserve.

 

Break up, but Remain Friends

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In order to be able to be in a relationship, break up and remain friends, you must have a strong friendship from the start.  It’s possible but not likely to lose your man, but keep your friend.  Sometimes that happens when a friendship is taken to the next level, but doesn’t work out romantically.

If a break up is a mutual decision it’s possible you could still be friends.  The key to remaining friends is to realize early on when the relationship isn’t working out and end it civilly before it gets nasty and bitterness sets in.  Both parties must want to salvage the friendship.  It’s easier when it’s someone you have been dating for a short period of time.  When neither of you have invested that much time and energy into the relationship, you could simply say that you enjoy hanging out with them, but you don’t feel there’s chemistry between you.  When only one person wants out of the relationship, then the other person may be offended by suggesting they be placed in the “friend zone.”

Being friends after ending a relationship usually won’t happen immediately if you have been in a relationship for a while.  It will take some time apart to get over the hurt and to forgive them and move on.  There would have to be maturity on both sides and they would both have to no longer have romantic feelings towards each other in order for a friendship to actually work.  This is not the usual situation in a break up.  Sometimes one of them still want to be together.

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Don’t Just Date Your “Type”

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Some women tend to have a specific type of man who she’s attracted to and she doesn’t have any interest in any other man who doesn’t fit into her “type”.  It’s a good idea not to place limitations on available men out there that you could meet.  You may just miss out on a great guy that you’re overlooking or ruling him out because he doesn’t fit your physical or professional type.  These men could be someone you cross paths with everyday;  a close male friend, a coworker or someone you’ve known for years, maybe even someone you placed in  the “friend zone”.

He may not be tall, dark and handsome, have swag, have a successful career or be the man every woman desires, but he may have other meaningful qualities that you’re also looking for, but can’t seem to find in your usual “type”.  Qualities like character, personality, integrity, honesty, stability, maturity and loyalty, just to name a few.

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Men Show Love By Their Actions

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A man may not always tell you that he loves you, but his actions will show his true feelings.  Men are taught as boys to hide their feelings and emotions.  They have learned how to do that very well.  Men communicate differently than women do.  Some men won’t open up and share everything that’s on their minds or what they are feeling.  You will know how he feels about you by the way he provides and protects you.  He will do things for you without you asking him to.  A man in love will come to the rescue of the one he loves and will help out or handle a situation that he know is bothering you.

When a man chooses to spend quality time with you, instead of hanging out with the fellas, he’s showing you that he cherishes being in your company as often as he can.   A man in love will go out of his way to please the woman he’s in love with.  If he does things for you, that he hasn’t done for any other woman, you’ll know just how much you mean to him.  Other people will notice his love for you way before you do.

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Why Women Should Date Multiple Men

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I’m going to start by saying it’s about dating multiple men, not sleeping with multiple partners.  Dating several men at the same time will give you a chance to explore your options while comparing your dates for the qualities that you’re looking for.  You will also be able to see who sparks your interest, compatibility and chemistry.  Perhaps dating someone other than your “type”, may be worth trying.

The more men you date, the greater the chance for you to find the one that is right for you.  It will help to prevent you from settling.  It isn’t necessary for you to disclose to your dates that you’re dating other people.  If you’re not in a serious relationship, then you don’t have anyone to answer to.  You are free to date as many men as you like.  If a man asks, then you can tell him that you are exploring your options.

Sometimes we don’t really know exactly what we are looking for in a relationship.  Dating multiple people will enable you to find out what you don’t want, that’s for sure.  (LOL)

Profile Tips for Online Dating Sites

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When subscribing to online dating sites your profile and profile photo will determine how you will be perceived by others.  It gives in a brief synopsis of your personality, your interests and your appearance.  You should look approachable.  Being too made up and dressing too provocatively will cause men to see you just as a party girl or a good time girl, but they won’t take you serious.

Posting at least five photos of yourself is a must.  You should have some full body shots as well.  Wearing dresses in some of your photos, instead of all pants and maxi dresses will show your femininity.  Besides, men want to see your curves, your style and how you look in your clothes.

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Getting Back on the Market

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After a divorce or the end of a long-term relationship, you need to take time to reflect upon the demise of the relationship and to heal so that you don’t carry baggage from your past into your new relationship.   Don’t rush to get back out there.  Start dating when you’re ready.  You need time to gain your confidence and to get your swag back.  Screen your dates for compatibility and chemistry.

When in a marriage for many years, you may fear getting back into the dating game.  The dating scene has changed so much over the last 10 years.  Online dating is the best and most popular way to jump right in and casually date to get yourself comfortable with being single again, but take it slow and be careful to meet in public places and don’t reveal too much personal information about yourself.  Never go to a bar or happy hour alone.  It has desperate, lonely or pick me up, written all over your forehead!

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Surviving a Breakup

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When we are in a relationship for a long period of time we can become comfortable and complacent.  We may stay in the relationship even though we aren’t happy.  Having to start over and the fear of the unknown, also keeps couples together when things aren’t working out between them.

Men and women often dread being alone or having a single status again. Cheating is an option some people will take when they want to hold onto who they are with while they look for their replacement.  Some would rather cheat on their partner, than to get rid of them.  Thinking a man will change is also a big mistake women tend to make.  Wasting time in a relationship that’s going nowhere isn’t worth it.

Some people feel a sense of loss or failure when a relationship ends, even when they weren’t compatible.  Sometimes, it’s just the stigma society places on being coupled, or an emotional attachment to someone who is emotionally detached from you.

Getting back into the dating scene and taking it slowly is the best way to heal and to take your mind off the hurt.  There’s something to be learned from each relationship.  Now that you are free, take the time out for yourself.  Hang out where there are plenty of men, since you are single and ready to mingle.  Remember, someone better is out there waiting for you.