When you’re on a date, the person who asks for the date is generally the person who pays the check whether it’s the man or the woman. If you want to contribute, you could offer to pay the tip. A gentleman may pay the bill regardless, but he isn’t obligated to pay.
It’s not being considerate if you purposely pick the most expensive restaurant and order the most expensive items on the menu or order several drinks without your date asking you if you would like to order another drink. It may backfire on you. You may not get a second date. (LOL) If you’ve been dating for a while and are considered to be in a relationship, then it’s normal that either of you pay for the meals on a date.
When a man asks you to go out with him, if he intents for you to pay or split the check, that conversation should always take place before you go out. This way you can agree to or cancel the date. I feel going “dutch” on a first date isn’t worth your time! You’re better off going out with your girlfriends instead. If a woman starts out paying for the dates, then she will be expected to continue to do so. On a first date, I feel it’s best to let the man select the restaurant because it will tell you something about his character (whether he’s cheap or not trying to impress you). If a man feels that he doesn’t want to spend his money on a date with someone he may not have chemistry and attraction with, then he should always have first dates at coffee shops or happy hours.
Tip: Always google the restaurant in advance to have an idea of the place you are going and confirm your date the day before. If you’re not comfortable with the place or the location, cancel the date and lose his number. If the first date isn’t impressive, it will only go downhill from there.