Just about everyone has some emotional baggage, but too much can ruin any relationship. People sometimes sabotage their new relationships because of the baggage they carry with them into the new relationship. If you had prior trust or jealousy issues stemming from an ex boyfriend who cheated on you, or have abandonment issues from your childhood or any other past hurts, you must try to overcome your emotional insecurities so they don’t continue to follow you into future relationships. It’s not fair to a new love to have to suffer through your insecurities, that they didn’t cause.
It’s best to take time for yourself after a breakup and not rush into a rebound relationship. You need that time to heal and lose your baggage from past painful events. You need to be emotionally healthy in order to give a new relationship a chance at working. It’s not fair for someone else to have to pay for the emotional scars from your past. The types of emotional baggage that can threaten a relationship are from; childhood trauma from dysfunctional parents or neglect or abuse, or from past lovers, especially if you aren’t emotionally detached from them. These types of baggage can affect a new relationship in a very negative way.
Perhaps the solution is to learn how to effectively manage your baggage in a healthy way, or better yet, if you are able to lose it all together. If all else fails, try to limit the amount of baggage that you carry around. I’m not a therapist, but maybe being able to forgive, would also help a person to let go. You must try to bury past hurts in order to move forward to a positive outcome in the future.